S10.12 |Godly Friendships: Why You Need an Aaron & Hur in Your Life
We all face battles—spiritual, emotional, and personal. But God never intended for us to fight alone. In this episode, we dive into the story of Moses, Aaron, and Hur and uncover the biblical model for strong, God-honoring friendships.Who are the people holding up your arms when you’re weary? Are you surrounding yourself with faith-filled friends who support, uplift, and fight for you in prayer?
If you've ever felt alone in your struggles, this episode will encourage you to seek out and invest in the kind of friendships God desires for you. Tune in as we explore what it means to be an Aaron or a Hur in someone’s life—and how to find those people in yours.
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Key Takeaways
Godly Friendships Help You Fight Life’s Battles:
Just as Aaron and Hur held up Moses’ arms in battle, true friends stand with us in our spiritual and emotional struggles. We weren’t meant to do life alone.
The Right Friends Strengthen Your Faith:
Surround yourself with people who point you back to God, pray for you, and encourage you in your walk with Christ. Friendships should build your faith, not drain it.
Be an Aaron or a Hur to Someone Else:
It’s not just about having strong, godly friends—it’s about being one. Ask yourself: Who in your life needs encouragement, support, or a reminder that they’re not alone?
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TRANSCRIPT
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[00:00:00] Friends, welcome to Affirming Truths. I'm your friend and host Carla Arches. This show is a safe place to share our struggles, grow in faith, and root our identity in Christ. My hope is that you will leave each episode feeling encouraged in your journey. Subscribe so you don't miss an episode and it would mean the world to me if you would leave a review.
I am so glad you're here. Let's get started. Hello, friends. Welcome to this episode of Affirming Truth. For the first time in eight weeks, I am feeling a little bit more alive. Thank you, Jesus. Hopefully you hear it in my voice that I'm a little bit stronger. Not 100 percent out of the woods yet, but I feel so much better.
So thank you for sticking with me the last few weeks when my [00:01:00] audio and my voice may not have been great. I appreciate you. And today's episode is definitely Holy Spirit inspired. I like to think all my episodes are, but I don't plan my podcast content. Like months or weeks in advance, I don't have every season pre planned what the episodes are going to be.
This may shock some other podcasters. Um, of course I have a running list of ideas and I brainstorm and I, and I have topics that if I'm stuck, I could look at. But really, I lean into. In the moment, what does the Holy Spirit want for you today? And I lean into, in the moment, what's happening in my own life that I can share with you.
Or, what are some common themes I'm seeing emerge from my clients that I know you would benefit from as well? [00:02:00] So, I don't pre plan things, I just go with where God leads, and this morning on my walk, I prayed for Holy Spirit inspiration on what to record today, and God immediately dropped a story into my head.
And it's not anything I'd studied in a long time, so I know that this was the Holy Spirit. So grab a notebook if you like to take notes, grab a cup of coffee or a tea, and let's talk about it. And I'm going to challenge you. So the story that God dropped into my mind, into my spirit, into my heart today was about Moses, Aaron, and Hur.
H U R, if I'm pronouncing that wrong, her. And we pick up the story in Exodus, and the children of God are making their way through the wilderness, going to the promised land, Moses is still their leader, [00:03:00] Joshua is, uh, risen to the ranks as a great warrior. And they are facing, and here's another word that we're going to struggle with, but the Amalekite, Amalekite army who wants to destroy the children of God and God gives Moses direction and he goes up on the hill over the battlefield and while he raises his staff above his head, Joshua and the Israelites When, but when he lowers his arm, the Amalekite army starts to win.
And so we pick up the story, um, where Moses is getting tired and it's at Exodus 17, verse 12 and 13. When Moses's hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him. And he sat on it. Aaron and her held up his hands, one on one side, one on the other side, so that his hands remained [00:04:00] steady until sunset.
So, Joshua overcame the Amalgalite army with the sword. So, Moses is getting weary. And there's, there's so many nuggets in here, there's so many nuggets, um, and, and I can't cover them all in this podcast episode, but here's a couple of things I want you to understand. Moses, in his weariness, had friends to support him, to help him overcome.
And not just him, the whole people, like this is rippling effects, this isn't just about Moses, this was about All of the Israelites, this was about the chosen people facing an army that wanted to annihilate them. And can I tell you, you are facing an army of darkness that wants to annihilate you. Right? We don't fight against flesh and blood.
We fight against principalities. There is an army [00:05:00] of darkness that wants to annihilate you and every believer of God. And if they could, they want to annihilate God himself. They can't, so they go after his children. And in the face of this, and maybe you see that right now, Right? Like, for me, for example, my bipolar and my borderline, the enemy uses them to try to annihilate me.
He tries to take me out. And maybe you are facing anxiety or depression. Maybe you have OCD. Maybe you have BPD like me. And you feel like it's taking you out. You feel like you're not Really walking in your plan and purposes, right? So the Israelites had plan and purpose over their life to get to the promised land.
That was a promise. And maybe you feel like your promised land, whatever God's promise is for you, is so far away and you're [00:06:00] growing weary. And you have this enemy attacking you, attacking you. Go back a few episodes. I did a whole podcast on facing opposition and how the enemy likes to attack us, right?
Discouragement, doubt, disagreement, despair. He like, he wants to take us out. And my question for you is, do you have an Aaron and a her in your life? Do you have? Listen, Moses heart was to do God's will. Moses wasn't being disobedient by his hands coming down. Moses heart wasn't turning against God, but he was physically weary.
And maybe what you're facing right now in your situation, your heart is to be obedient to God. Your heart is to continue where God is [00:07:00] calling you, but you are weary. You are weary of the struggle. You are weary of the battle. Do you have an Aaron and a her in your life? Listen, it's great to have lots of friends.
It's great to stay connected with our high school buddies. It's great to be connected in a Bible study group, but Aaron and her represent intimacy. There was an intimacy in this. Do you have intimacy with the right friends? Friends that are godly, that are going to hold you up and encourage you and strengthen you in your weariness so that you can keep going.
Do you have friends like that? You have to curate your circle so carefully. [00:08:00] I'm part of the women's ministry team at church, and we recently did a women's event, and it was all about godly friendship. And one of the ladies on the panel gave such a great analogy about friendships. And I want to share that with you.
And I'll tie it all together in a second, so bear with me. Think of yourself like a house. You have a front porch, you have a living room and then you have your bedroom, right? The bedroom is the most intimate place. The living room is a nice place for gathering and the porch is where, you know, we let people come to our door but we don't let them in.
Right? Like sales people come to the door, a neighbor may come to the door, right? Different people have different access to our house. Now the problem is we often give the wrong people the wrong answer. Access. [00:09:00] You know, in real life, you wouldn't let the FedEx delivery guy into your, your bedroom. And yet how often are we doing that in our life, bringing the wrong people into intimacy with us that cannot support us, that cannot encourage us in the Lord, that cannot give us godly wisdom.
Who are you letting into the bedroom of your life? Do you have an errand in her? This is so important. This is what God wants. I want to point out a few other things from this story. That when Moses grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him. A stone in the Bible represents strength, stability, endurance, a foundation of faith.
In our weariness, are we standing or sitting firm on the rock of [00:10:00] our salvation? What is girding us? What is supporting us? That stone was the major support for Moses. Yes, Aaron and Hur were holding up his hands, but his body, his life, was supported by that stone. Are you allowing God to be your support? Are you firmly rooting yourself in God as you go through this struggle and as you are weary, or are you turning to other things?
Are you turning to worldly wisdom? Are you turning to the next self help book? I think the one that's all the rage right now is Let Them, the Let Them Theory. By Mel, I want to say Robbins, maybe. Are you turning to Mel Robbins or are you turning to the book? The book, the Holy [00:11:00] Scriptures, the revealed character of Christ, the bread of life.
Where are you going to? What is your foundation of faith? What is that stone beneath you? Because if you are sitting on anything but the rock of your salvation, it's not going to support you. It's not going to support you. I remember sitting down in like this dollar store chair I got that did not have a lot of life in it, right?
It was a cheap chair. I wanted to save money. Can I tell you, I think by the third or fourth time I used it, I went to sit down and I fell through the chair. It broke. The dollar store chair could not support me. Maybe it looked like it could in the beginning, right? How easily are we deceived? But in the long run, it couldn't support me.
What's your foundation? Where are you going to? And who is in your [00:12:00] circle? You know, if we want to go deeper here, and when I've been studying this, we see that Aaron is a type of Christ, and her is a type of the Holy Spirit. So Aaron being a type of Christ, in that he is a high priest, and Jesus is our high priest.
And her a type of the Holy Spirit that Moses was rooted, firmly standing on God being directed and, and having mediation by and having endurance given and strength given by Christ and the Holy Spirit, how prominent. What is Jesus and the Holy Spirit in your life? When you're going for support, are you turning first to Christ and welcoming in the people that he is sending you for resources?
[00:13:00] Sure, God could have supernaturally held up Moses hands. There's nothing that God can't do. But we see time and time again, God often works through people. What resources, what people, what friendships does God want to bring into your life? And are you going out there to meet them?
You cannot do this life successfully without an Aaron and a her in your life.
And I know sometimes our anxiety, our mental illness, our trauma, It wants to keep us in isolation. It wants to keep us hidden. Why? Because that's a tactic of the, of the enemy. Because when we are isolated, when we are hidden, we are weaker. We are herd animals, if you will. We're [00:14:00] meant to be in the herd.
There's safety in the community of Christ, in the body of Christ. Think about what happens. When one sheep, or one goat, or one gazelle is separated from the herd, it's vulnerable, and it's the one that likely gets taken out by the predator. There is a predator in your life, coming to seek, kill, and destroy.
Steal, kill, and destroy. Are you in the herd? Are you off by yourself? Are you off by yourself? Are you in the right herd? Because let me tell you, you go into the wrong herd. You don't have their safety and their covering. Imagine a zebra trying to join the gazelles. The gazelles will be like, who are you?
They're not going to fight and defend for the zebra like they would for another gazelle. [00:15:00] What herd are you in? Are you running with the world? Are you with the body of Christ? And I mean spirit. filled Christians. I don't just mean people that you meet at church that fill a pew on Sunday. Are they spiritually mature?
You need spiritually mature people in your life. Yes, you should also be a Paul to someone else's Timothy. Yes, you should take on that mentorship role, but for the context of this discussion, struggling through life, seeing that you have an enemy, seeing that there's someone that's going to take you out, you need strong, mature Christians to hold you up.
Do you have those in your life? And if you say, Carla, no, I don't, but I don't know where to find them. Yeah, you do. Yeah, you do. God's given us an internal compass on [00:16:00] this. I truly believe that. But it takes you stepping out, out of that isolation, out of that fear. Start a Bible study group. And the people that really are interested in growing in the Word, are going to show up to that group.
You're afraid to start one? Join one. Join one. And if your church doesn't have life groups or Bible study groups, look online. See if there's programming at other churches that you can attend during the week. Right? Make it known. Make it known that you're looking for friends. Guys, this is what I had to do.
I had to swallow my pride. What was it, four years ago? I invited all these women from my church that I hardly knew over to my house, and I had to swallow my pride and I said, I'm looking for fellowship and [00:17:00] to develop deep friendships. With women of God, where we can sharpen each other. This is what I propose developing that friendship looks like.
We meet every week for Bible study and to do life together. And we, once a month, do something socially, where it's solely focused on relation. We go out for dinner, we go, you know, play games, whatever that is. But I literally had to, hello, introvert, social anxiety. Afraid of Christian women like this was my nightmare, but this is what God told me to do because I cried out to God I said God I need I need an Aaron and a her and I'm so scared And God said this is what you need to do and guess what?
He was with me when God calls us to do something. He is with us in the doing [00:18:00] He is with us in the doing so make it known that you're looking for friends Make it known that you want to grow in relationship with Christian women. Pray to God that he will bring the right ones in your path. Pray to God that he would give you discernment.
In recognizing you're Aaron and you're her,
but you definitely need one. And you got to ask yourself, who can you be an Aaron and a her for? Because it works both ways. I need an Aaron and a her, but in my relationships, I need to be an Aaron or a her to someone else. My affirming truth for you today is I will surround myself with Aaron and hers and curate my circle carefully.
And I'm going to go to [00:19:00] 2 And it says, Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what partnership has the righteous with the dark, with the lawlessness? Or what fellowship has the light with darkness? Listen, I'm not saying that we isolate ourselves from the world and have no Christian friends.
That's not what I'm saying at all. Um, there is benefit for us engaging with the world to point them to Christ. There is benefit for us to, um, be people that the world can come to and see a transformed life. What I'm saying though is that those people have porch and maybe living room access. But you need to curate a circle carefully that gets access to your bedroom.
And those should be people that you are equally yoked with. You should not be unequally yoked with those that you invite into your inner circle because they will not be able to [00:20:00] be an Aaron and a Her. And not only will they not be able to support you the way you need to, You put yourself at risk of going off the rails further.
And so I just want to encourage you with this today. I don't know if it spoke to you. It really spoke to me, and it really had me reflecting, okay, who's in my circle, and who could I be for this? If you're struggling. Be on the rock, be on the stone, the firm foundation, and have people in your life that will raise your hands so that you can overcome, so that you can overcome, right?
Because you are an overcomer in Christ. If you want to talk further about this, I invite you to send me a DM at Karla at Karla. arges on Instagram, like we can definitely continue this conversation. Um, I would love to give you some hope, some advice, some [00:21:00] counsel, some guidance, or answer any of your questions.
I am always available here. And it's me responding. I don't have someone else responding to my DMs. You're actually talking to me. And so I would love to continue this conversation with you. Anyways guys, I hope you have a blessed day and we will talk to you later.
Thanks for joining me today. I hope we're already friends on social media, but if we're not, come find me on Instagram at Karla Arges or at Affirming Truth. Can't wait to see you back here next week. Bye friends.
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